What You Can Do

Recommendations and Strategies for Adults

If you don’t intervene, bullies, victims, and bystanders will continue to believe in the power of bullying, rather than the power of prevention. They will continue to let bullying happen.

So, why don’t adults intervene more often? Sometimes, it’s because we don’t see it happen; we’re not sure what to look for. But often, it’s because we don’t know what to do or we’re afraid that our actions will somehow make matters worse.

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This section offers tips and strategies for intervening effectively—recognizing that effective intervention begins long before you detect a bullying incident, and continues long after you have spoken to the children involved.

  • Prevention offers concrete suggestions for helping children differentiate between acceptable and harmful behaviors and build the skills necessary for effective bullying prevention.
  • Intervention offers strategies for responding effectively when an incident occurs—things to do and say to stop the incident and ensure that the children involved are safe.
  • Follow-up offers guidance on what to do after the incident. It includes separate guidance for addressing the needs of the bully, victim, and bystander.
  • Talking with children offers specific language you can use when talking about bullying.

TOOLKIT

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If there is anything we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves.

- Carl Jung

 

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